>I can’t see who looks at this blog, but I can see what link they came from and I have some hits that were directed to me from “stop-a-cheater.com” which is a snoop program that monitors cell phone usage. So one of you is being spied on. I thought about just ignoring that, but the more I think about it, the more it bothers me.

This is directed at both of you. Both the one being bugged and the one doing the bugging. My partner and I have been together for over 20 years. There have been lots of great moments and a few very rough ones as well. One thing I can tell you right now is that honesty and open communication is what builds a solid relationship, not secrecy and snooping.

If you can’t talk to your partner about the fact that you think they’re doing something illicit, then that’s a far bigger problem than whatever illicit your partner is doing. Especially if its just reading a naughty story.

Erotica can be a really great starting point to talk about things and that’s my sage advice to you. Talk about whatever is going on and stop the sneaking around.